How Zodiac Signs Deal with Death
Have you ever wondered how zodiac signs deal with death? When well-intentioned people see us deep in grief, they often want us to 'get better,' to return to our old selves, to find 'normal' again. They think that healing the grief will solve everything. But here's the thing - your grief isn't the problem—the suffering is. What needs easing isn't the grief itself, but the weight of carrying it.
The Journey Through Loss
Twelve years after my husband died, I still find myself asking, "What happened?" You see, if someone were to heal my grief, they would erase the space that Kerry occupied in my life. If the wound of losing him so suddenly heals completely, he disappears further. He has already left this realm, and this deep gash in my heart is one of the few tangible pieces of him I have left. To heal it would mean watching him fade even deeper into the ether.
But this feeling of suspended disbelief around 'What happened?' isn't new to me. It's a familiar echo that has reverberated through many moments in my life— each loss, each abandonment, each chasm that opened up in the earth and swallowed my 'dream plan' had me waking up the following day amazed at how the world continued turning while my inner landscape was completely unrecognizable. I call these moments when my life plan disappears into the void 'life-quakes' - because that's exactly how they feel, don't they? The ground shifts beneath our feet, and then, in an instant, nothing is the same anymore.
The thing about these life-quakes is that they're intensely personal. While others see life moving forward as usual, they can't see all the empty spaces in your day - the morning coffee ritual that's now just an empty chair, the inside jokes that have no one to share them with, the roles your person took on in your life that you now have to figure out alone. Your person's death changes everything about who you are, even though to the outside world, you probably look no different.
How an Astrology Chart Tells the Story of Your Trauma
Here's the thing about all those well-meaning people in your life - they care so deeply, and they're trying their best to help, even when their words miss the mark. They see your pain and want to make it better, but they're working from their own playbook of what they think might help. What if I told you there's a different kind of support available - one that's uniquely tailored to you?
You see, grief doesn't exist in isolation. Your astrological chart shows how you personally move through loss and transformation. Each experience of loss connects to earlier moments in your life, weaving together a tapestry that tells the story of how you understand safety, worth, and belonging. When Kerry died, I discovered this firsthand - it wasn't just about losing my beloved partner. It reopened every door where abandonment had visited before, echoed every question about my worth, and shook the foundation where my sense of safety used to live.
Our birth charts hold such profound wisdom about these patterns. They're not crystal balls predicting the future - think of them more like soul blueprints, showing both our tender spots and our paths toward healing. Through astrology, I've learned something vital: while all of my experiences happened to me, they've also happened for me. But let me be clear - this isn't about that well-worn phrase 'everything happens for a reason.' Instead, what I've found is that there's reason in what happened. It's a subtle but crucial difference.
Your zodiac signs can help illuminate this path, offering guidance that feels like it was written just for you.
Your Astrology Support Guides Through Grief
In your birth chart, you have a beautiful array of cosmic companions - planets, luminaries, and celestial points - each appearing in different zodiac signs. Their placements tell a deeply unique and personal story about who you are, how you process feelings, and what brings you comfort in life's most challenging moments. Think of it as your soul's blueprint, mapping out your natural ways of moving through all of life's big experiences - including those times when loss changes everything.
Grief can feel so isolating, especially when everyone around you expects you to 'heal' or follow certain 'phases' of grief like they're checking boxes on a list. But grief doesn't follow rules or steps - it's as unique as the love you carry. Where you are right now in your journey matters, because your grief matters, because the person you lost matters.
The stars offer us such profound comfort here - not to take your grief away (because it's precious), but to help lighten the weight of carrying it alone. These planets and celestial bodies can help you feel truly seen and understood, and often for the first time.
Let me introduce you to some of these cosmic guides... when you're ready to listen inward, they have so much wisdom to share about your unique way of moving through loss:
The Moon: Your Emotional Wisdom Keeper
The Moon's placement in your chart reveals how you naturally process emotional upheaval. Like the Moon's phases, your grief journey has its own natural rhythm. Some zodiac signs need to retreat and process privately, while others find healing in sharing their story. Your Moon sign shows you how to honour your unique emotional needs during times of loss.
Venus: Finding Comfort in the Storm
Venus shows where you can find comfort when everything feels uncomfortable. She guides you to the small rituals and gentle practices that soothe your grieving heart. Whether it's through art, nature, music, or connection, Venus points to the experiences that can bring moments of peace amid the pain.
Saturn: Building New Foundations
Saturn points to where you can build new foundations when familiar ground crumbles. This wise teacher shows how different zodiac signs find structure and stability after loss. Saturn's placement reveals your innate strength and the practical ways you can create new meaning while honouring what's been lost.
Chiron: The Wounded Healer's Gift
Chiron—the wounded healer—reveals how your deepest hurts can transform into your greatest gifts. This asteroid shows how zodiac signs transform their pain into wisdom and eventually help others navigate similar paths. Your Chiron placement illuminates the unique way you can turn your experiences into a source of healing for yourself and others.
The North & South Nodes: Your Path Through Grief
The nodes tell a story of where you've been and where you're heading. Your South Node speaks to familiar territory—those moments when the ground beneath your feet disappeared. But the North Node points to possibility, showing how these wounds can transform into wisdom. Through understanding my chart, I've learned that being a "waif" isn't my destiny. Instead, all of my losses are part of a larger journey to finding my strength in being vulnerable.
As we explore these cosmic guides together, you might be wondering how to actually use this celestial wisdom in your own journey...
How Astrology Deals with Death: 'Healing' the Wound but Keeping the Heart
To those walking similar paths, know that your chart holds keys to understanding your unique journey of transformation through loss. For me, astrology is not about predicting more loss or preventing more pain—it's about recognizing that you carry within you both the wound and the wisdom to heal it.
Instead of trying to heal grief away or rush past the pain, what if we created space to listen to what these experiences are teaching us? What if each loss, while painful, is also an invitation to know ourselves more deeply?
Finding Peace Through Astrological Wisdom
Through this lens, your grief becomes not just precious but purposeful. It's about how each experience shapes your understanding of love, worth, and resilience. Your chart reminds you that even in moments of profound loss, you're supported by something larger than yourself.
Peace isn't found in the absence of grief but in making room for all of it—the pain and the wisdom, the loss and the love. Sometimes, the bravest thing we can do is place a hand on our own shoulder and whisper, "You've got this" or "I love you." Know that your chart reflects back to you the truth you most need to remember: that you are worthy, you are supported, and you are exactly where you need to be on your journey.
Transforming Grief into Wisdom: The Astrology Way
Like the Japanese art of Kintsugi, where broken pottery is repaired with seams of gold, our experiences of loss can be transformed into something of profound beauty. Each crack, each wound, and each moment of heartbreak becomes a golden line in our story, catching the light and showing others the way forward. The broken places aren't erased or hidden—they're illuminated, honoured, and transformed into art.
Our birth charts are like these golden seams, mapping the beautiful ways we've been broken and mended, showing us how our wounds can shimmer with wisdom. And just as the world continues to turn, how trauma can randomly intersect and seemingly break apart what we know to be true, we too can learn to move with our experiences rather than against them, shine a light on the break and invite our charts to guide us in turning our deepest wounds into our most luminous light.
Walking This Path Together:
You know, there's something powerful about discovering how your unique natal chart can shine a light on your path through grief. If you're feeling called to explore what your stars have to say about your journey - to understand why certain losses hit differently or why some comfort practices work better than others for you - I'd love to be your guide.
Let's sit together with your chart and uncover the wisdom it holds about your personal way of moving through loss. In a one-on-one session, we'll explore how your celestial companions can help lighten this load you're carrying, while honouring the precious memories you hold.
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Until our paths cross,
Debra
P.S. The stars have your back, and so do I. You've got this. ✨
